Sirrikan dawo da tsohuwar budurwarka

Shin ka sami sabani dakai da budurwar ka har ya kaiku ga rabuwa? Shin kaya kokarin ganin cewa kun shirya amma hakanka yaci tura? Karka damu domin yanzu kayanka ya tsinke a gindin kaba. Yau zan sanar dakai yanda zaka shawa kan tsohuwar budurwarka ku dawo ku  cigaba da soyayarku kamar yanda kuke kafin samun matsala.

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Amma kafin nan zan baku dan gajeren labara. Yan watannin da suka wuce wani  dan uwa yasami sabani shii da budurwarsa, har takai ga tayi fushi ta rabu dashi, ta daina daukar wayarsa bata amsa text message idan yayi mata. yashiga damuwa matuka. Amma yayi nasarar shawo kanta bayan da yayi amfani da wasu sirrika da wata yar uwata tabashi. Wadannan sirrika kuwa sune:

Waye yafara rabuwa da wani a tsakaninku: wannan shine babban abin dubawa acikin al’amarin, idan kai kafara rabuwa da ita ba itace ta rabu dakaiba to wannan yafi wahala akan ace itace ta rabu dakai. Aikin zaizamo maka mai sauki idan itace ta fara rabua dakai. A wannan bayani zanyi maganene akan idan iatce ta fara rabuwa dakai.

1. Kayi kokarin fahintar meyasa ta rabudakai, anan kaza tambayi kanka wai shin tafara soyayya da wanine, kokuma wani halina ne bataso. Amsa wadannan tambayoyin shine abu na farko da zai baka damar fuskantarta domin neman sulhu.

2. Kada kacika damunta akwanakin farko na rabuwarku: a yan kwanakin farko na rabuwarku baikamata ka takura mata da waya ko zuwa gidansuba. Domin a wannan  kwanakin tana cikin yanayi damuwa da bacin ran abinda ya hadaku. Idan kuma wani sabon saurayi tayi wanda yasa ta rabu dakai to tana cikin shaukin sonsa.  Zaka bata hutu na kamar sati uku zuwa hudu.

Karanta: yanda zaka gane cewa budurwarka na yaudararka

3. Ka gyara wasanka: bayan hutun daka bata, sannan kuma kagano dalilin dayasa ta rabu dakai, abi nagaba shine sai kayi kokarin canja halayya kokuma duk wani abu dakasan shine sandiyyar rabuwarku. Kayi kokari wajen ganin cewa tasan ka canja.

4. Kada kasameta idan tana tare da wani namijin: kayi kokarin samunta daga kai sai ita kanemi tabaka dama ku tattauna. Bawayewa bace wai don kasami yarinya kayi mata Magana agaban saurayinta.

5. Kafara a hankali: bayan tsahon lokaci da kuka dauka bakwa tare, idan kasami damar yimata Magana to kafara kamar a ranar kafara saninta. Kayi mata kalamai kamar wata sabuwar budurwa kakeson tsarawa. Idan kaga tasaki jiki dakai to sai katambayeta kanaso takara baka dama.

6. Kaziyarceta a gidansu: idan kaga cewa kadan fara samun fuska to kayi kokarin zuwa gidansu domin ka tattauna makomar son da kake mata. Kada kacika matsa mata idan tace kada kazo, kabita a hankali har kasamu ta amince.

7. Abu na karshe idan duk kayi iyaka kokarinka wajen ganin kashawo kanta amma taki amincewa to dan uwa duniya ai cike take da marmaki. Idan wani yaki da wuta ta kika da wuni wata ai zata soka da shekara. Sai kayi mata fatan alheri. Allah ya hada kowa da rabonsa.

Karanta: yanda zaka gane cewa budurwarka na yaudararka